THE ANTIDOTE
A Tender Core retreat for people who want to feel more of their life.
RECEIVE. FEEL. EXPRESS.
You don't need another weekend of self-improvement.
You might need a few days where you stop trying to be productive, useful, impressive or even particularly good at anything.
The Antidote is an immersive Tender Core experience for curious, alternative women and people 30+ who know there is more of themselves and more of life waiting to come out.
Maybe you're fucking exhausted from always being the capable one.
Maybe you're brilliant at giving but have no idea how to receive without feeling guilty.
Maybe you've done years of therapy and understand yourself incredibly well but still spend most of your life trapped inside your head.
Maybe your life looks pretty good from the outside, but you've lost touch with pleasure, creativity, play or desire.
Maybe you're moving through a shift in identity, sexuality, relationships or what you actually want from your life.
Or maybe nothing is particularly wrong.
You're just hungry for MORE.
More connection.
More intimacy.
More pleasure.
More creativity.
More freedom.
More aliveness.
The Antidote is a temporary interruption to the life you already know so you can experience what else might be possible.
THIS ISN'T ABOUT FIXING YOU.
Tender Core is built around three things I see getting in the way of our aliveness:
We struggle to RECEIVE.
We become trapped in our MINDS.
We inhibit our SELF-EXPRESSION.
So rather than spending a weekend sitting around talking about our patterns, we're going to practise something different.
The retreat moves through three Tender Core gateways:
RECEIVE → FEEL → EXPRESS
And then we ask:
How do I take more of this person home with me?
RECEIVE
What happens when you stop being the one doing everything?
Many of us have spent years becoming exceptional at output.
Giving. Helping. Working. Anticipating. Achieving. Caring. Performing. Keeping everything moving.
And then someone asks:
“What do you need?”
...and suddenly we have no fucking idea.
At The Antidote, we're going to start building the other lane.
You'll explore what happens when you allow yourself to receive attention, care, rest, pleasure, support and connection without immediately needing to give something back.
We'll work with:
guided receiving practices
self-touch and sensory exploration
consent and boundaries
identifying wants and needs
giving and receiving touch
nervous-system regulation
slowing down and rest
pleasure practices
asking for what you want
practising being cared for and being met
This isn't about making you less generous.
It's about making connection a two-way street.
FEEL
You probably don't need to understand yourself any harder.
Some of the most self-aware people I know are also some of the most disconnected from what they're actually feeling.
We analyse.
We intellectualise.
We explain our patterns.
We try to think ourselves into different lives.
For this part of The Antidote, we're turning the volume of the mind down and the volume of the body UP.
We'll explore:
breathwork
somatic awareness
body scanning and tracking
movement and shaking
dance
emotional expression
nervous-system practices
curiosity and body-based enquiry
recognising needs, sensations and impulses
periods of slowness, silence and reduced stimulation
time in nature
pleasure without productivity
Not every breakthrough needs to be dramatic.
You might cry.
You might shake.
You might dance for no reason.
Or you might lie in the grass for 40 minutes and realise you haven't allowed yourself to do absolutely fucking nothing in years.
Feeling more doesn't always mean doing more.
Sometimes it means finally becoming quiet enough to notice what's already there.
EXPRESS
What parts of you aren't getting enough oxygen?
Your creativity.
Your sexuality.
Your anger.
Your softness.
Your voice.
Your weirdness.
Your ridiculousness.
Your desire.
Your clothes.
Your movement.
The thing you've secretly wanted to try but decided you're “not that kind of person.”
This part is deeply personal to me.
Three years ago, being a rapper and MC wasn't even something I could imagine for myself.
Through the same practices that eventually became Tender Core, I started loosening shame, getting into my body, playing, experimenting and allowing myself to be witnessed.
And another version of me emerged.
I don't think she appeared from nowhere. I think there was finally less in her way.
At The Antidote, we're going to create a playground for that exploration.
Expect:
non-productive dance
voice and sound
creative experimentation
play
movement
exploring desire
healthy emotional expression
being seen and witnessed
practising taking up space
identity and self-expression exercises
opportunities to wear, move, create or express yourself differently
connection practices with other humans
You do not need to be an artist.
You don't need to perform.
You don't need to be confident.
And you definitely don't need to be good at anything.
We're interested in what happens when you stop asking:
“Am I good at this?”
and start asking:
“Does this make me feel alive?”
AND THEN WE INTEGRATE.
Because I don't want you to have an extraordinary weekend, hug everyone goodbye, go home and become exactly who you were before you arrived.
The final part of The Antidote is about bringing the work into your actual life.
What do you want to receive more of?
What have you realised you need?
What part of yourself needs more expression?
What conversation needs to happen?
What needs to change?
What do you want to create?
What tiny practice could fundamentally change how you experience an ordinary Tuesday?
You'll leave with your own Tender Core integration plan across:
RECEIVING. FEELING. EXPRESSION.
Not 47 new habits.
A small number of meaningful practices and experiments that help keep the road open when real life begins again.
WHO IS THE ANTIDOTE FOR?
The Antidote is angled towards curious, alternative women and people 30+ who are questioning the life they were told they were supposed to want.
People who don't quite fit the mould.
People in transition.
Over-givers.
Over-thinkers.
People who've done the therapy but want to experience the work in their bodies.
People craving deeper intimacy and connection.
People who've lost touch with creativity, sensuality, play or pleasure.
And people whose lives might actually be perfectly “fine”...
but fine isn't really what they're here for.
Tender Core has deep roots in queer women's experience and carries a strong queer lens.
But you don't have to identify as queer to come.
You simply need to be curious about what exists beyond the script.
WHAT THE ANTIDOTE IS NOT
This isn't a sx party.
It isn't compulsory nudity.
It isn't three days of forced vulnerability.
And nobody is going to make you touch, disclose, perform or participate in something you don't want to do.
Choice is part of the work.
Your no matters here.
Your maybe matters.
Changing your mind matters.
Sitting something out matters.
Because learning to trust yourself is part of learning how to receive, feel and express.
WHAT MIGHT YOU LEAVE WITH?
I'm not interested in promising that three days will transform your entire existence.
I am interested in creating the conditions for you to experience yourself differently.
You might leave knowing what you want a little more clearly.
Moe comfortable receiving.
More connected to your body.
More willing to ask for what you need.
More expressive.
More playful.
More creatively alive.
More connected to other people.
More trusting of your boundaries.
Or simply with evidence that there are ways of being you haven't tried yet.
That's The Antidote.
A few days outside the everyday life.
A playground for receiving, embodiment, pleasure, connection and expression.
A chance to find out what happens when there is a little less in the way of you.
RECEIVE MORE OF LIFE.
FEEL MORE OF LIFE.
EXPRESS MORE OF YOURSELF.
THE ANTIDOTE
A Tender Core retreat for people who want to feel more of their life.
RECEIVE. FEEL. EXPRESS.
You don't need another weekend of self-improvement.
You might need a few days where you stop trying to be productive, useful, impressive or even particularly good at anything.
The Antidote is an immersive Tender Core experience for curious, alternative women and people 30+ who know there is more of themselves and more of life waiting to come out.
Maybe you're fucking exhausted from always being the capable one.
Maybe you're brilliant at giving but have no idea how to receive without feeling guilty.
Maybe you've done years of therapy and understand yourself incredibly well but still spend most of your life trapped inside your head.
Maybe your life looks pretty good from the outside, but you've lost touch with pleasure, creativity, play or desire.
Maybe you're moving through a shift in identity, sexuality, relationships or what you actually want from your life.
Or maybe nothing is particularly wrong.
You're just hungry for MORE.
More connection.
More intimacy.
More pleasure.
More creativity.
More freedom.
More aliveness.
The Antidote is a temporary interruption to the life you already know so you can experience what else might be possible.
THIS ISN'T ABOUT FIXING YOU.
Tender Core is built around three things I see getting in the way of our aliveness:
We struggle to RECEIVE.
We become trapped in our MINDS.
We inhibit our SELF-EXPRESSION.
So rather than spending a weekend sitting around talking about our patterns, we're going to practise something different.
The retreat moves through three Tender Core gateways:
RECEIVE → FEEL → EXPRESS
And then we ask:
How do I take more of this person home with me?
RECEIVE
What happens when you stop being the one doing everything?
Many of us have spent years becoming exceptional at output.
Giving. Helping. Working. Anticipating. Achieving. Caring. Performing. Keeping everything moving.
And then someone asks:
“What do you need?”
...and suddenly we have no fucking idea.
At The Antidote, we're going to start building the other lane.
You'll explore what happens when you allow yourself to receive attention, care, rest, pleasure, support and connection without immediately needing to give something back.
We'll work with:
guided receiving practices
self-touch and sensory exploration
consent and boundaries
identifying wants and needs
giving and receiving touch
nervous-system regulation
slowing down and rest
pleasure practices
asking for what you want
practising being cared for and being met
This isn't about making you less generous.
It's about making connection a two-way street.
FEEL
You probably don't need to understand yourself any harder.
Some of the most self-aware people I know are also some of the most disconnected from what they're actually feeling.
We analyse.
We intellectualise.
We explain our patterns.
We try to think ourselves into different lives.
For this part of The Antidote, we're turning the volume of the mind down and the volume of the body UP.
We'll explore:
breathwork
somatic awareness
body scanning and tracking
movement and shaking
dance
emotional expression
nervous-system practices
curiosity and body-based enquiry
recognising needs, sensations and impulses
periods of slowness, silence and reduced stimulation
time in nature
pleasure without productivity
Not every breakthrough needs to be dramatic.
You might cry.
You might shake.
You might dance for no reason.
Or you might lie in the grass for 40 minutes and realise you haven't allowed yourself to do absolutely fucking nothing in years.
Feeling more doesn't always mean doing more.
Sometimes it means finally becoming quiet enough to notice what's already there.
EXPRESS
What parts of you aren't getting enough oxygen?
Your creativity.
Your sexuality.
Your anger.
Your softness.
Your voice.
Your weirdness.
Your ridiculousness.
Your desire.
Your clothes.
Your movement.
The thing you've secretly wanted to try but decided you're “not that kind of person.”
This part is deeply personal to me.
Three years ago, being a rapper and MC wasn't even something I could imagine for myself.
Through the same practices that eventually became Tender Core, I started loosening shame, getting into my body, playing, experimenting and allowing myself to be witnessed.
And another version of me emerged.
I don't think she appeared from nowhere. I think there was finally less in her way.
At The Antidote, we're going to create a playground for that exploration.
Expect:
non-productive dance
voice and sound
creative experimentation
play
movement
exploring desire
healthy emotional expression
being seen and witnessed
practising taking up space
identity and self-expression exercises
opportunities to wear, move, create or express yourself differently
connection practices with other humans
You do not need to be an artist.
You don't need to perform.
You don't need to be confident.
And you definitely don't need to be good at anything.
We're interested in what happens when you stop asking:
“Am I good at this?”
and start asking:
“Does this make me feel alive?”
AND THEN WE INTEGRATE.
Because I don't want you to have an extraordinary weekend, hug everyone goodbye, go home and become exactly who you were before you arrived.
The final part of The Antidote is about bringing the work into your actual life.
What do you want to receive more of?
What have you realised you need?
What part of yourself needs more expression?
What conversation needs to happen?
What needs to change?
What do you want to create?
What tiny practice could fundamentally change how you experience an ordinary Tuesday?
You'll leave with your own Tender Core integration plan across:
RECEIVING. FEELING. EXPRESSION.
Not 47 new habits.
A small number of meaningful practices and experiments that help keep the road open when real life begins again.
WHO IS THE ANTIDOTE FOR?
The Antidote is angled towards curious, alternative women and people 30+ who are questioning the life they were told they were supposed to want.
People who don't quite fit the mould.
People in transition.
Over-givers.
Over-thinkers.
People who've done the therapy but want to experience the work in their bodies.
People craving deeper intimacy and connection.
People who've lost touch with creativity, sensuality, play or pleasure.
And people whose lives might actually be perfectly “fine”...
but fine isn't really what they're here for.
Tender Core has deep roots in queer women's experience and carries a strong queer lens.
But you don't have to identify as queer to come.
You simply need to be curious about what exists beyond the script.
WHAT THE ANTIDOTE IS NOT
This isn't a sx party.
It isn't compulsory nudity.
It isn't three days of forced vulnerability.
And nobody is going to make you touch, disclose, perform or participate in something you don't want to do.
Choice is part of the work.
Your no matters here.
Your maybe matters.
Changing your mind matters.
Sitting something out matters.
Because learning to trust yourself is part of learning how to receive, feel and express.
WHAT MIGHT YOU LEAVE WITH?
I'm not interested in promising that three days will transform your entire existence.
I am interested in creating the conditions for you to experience yourself differently.
You might leave knowing what you want a little more clearly.
Moe comfortable receiving.
More connected to your body.
More willing to ask for what you need.
More expressive.
More playful.
More creatively alive.
More connected to other people.
More trusting of your boundaries.
Or simply with evidence that there are ways of being you haven't tried yet.
That's The Antidote.
A few days outside the everyday life.
A playground for receiving, embodiment, pleasure, connection and expression.
A chance to find out what happens when there is a little less in the way of you.
RECEIVE MORE OF LIFE.
FEEL MORE OF LIFE.
EXPRESS MORE OF YOURSELF.
