Discover the realness within

Transformational intimacy for big-hearted babes who want to love deeply without leaving themselves behind.

Tender Core offers embodied experiences in self-intimacy, pleasure, touch, consent and authentic connection.

A playground for practising intimacy.

For people who want more aliveness from life

Tender Core is for the empaths, over-givers and big hearts who love deeply, give generously and sometimes disappear inside other people's needs.

It is especially for late bloomers and people who feel nervous, inexperienced or unsure where to begin. You may worry that you are behind. You may want more pleasure, intimacy and connection but feel afraid of getting it wrong.

You do not need to be confident, experienced or fearless to belong here. You only need to be curious enough to begin.

This work comes through a queer lens and welcomes women and gender-diverse people across sexual orientations. Tender Core has a particular history of supporting queer femmes, thems and late-blooming queens.

It is for people who have done the therapy, understand their patterns and are ready to feel change in their bodies.

For anyone drawn to chosen family, unconventional relationships and a life beyond the expected.

And for those who are simply sick of their own shit.

You know the pattern. You know the story. Now you want somewhere to practise a different way of living.

You are not here to become more acceptable. You are here to become more alive.

We are living through a modern intimacy crisis

We have never had more ways to contact each other, yet so many of us feel lonely, touch-starved and unsure how to create real closeness.

We have less time for long conversations. Less courage for emotional risk. Fewer places to practise depth with other people.

Many of us have had our boundaries crossed, so we learnt to armour ourselves. We were taught how to perform, produce and survive, but rarely how to ask for care, receive pleasure, communicate a boundary or stay present when intimacy feels vulnerable.

Tender Core is a place to practise closeness again.

Intimacy you can practise

Tender Core creates embodied spaces where you can:

• Practise consent and honest boundaries.

• Learn how to give and receive care.

• Question what pleasure means to you.

• Explore touch, sensuality and authentic expression.

• Be witnessed without pressure to perform.

• Stay connected to yourself while being close to someone else.

This work goes beyond talking and theory. We use rituals, touch practices, relational experiments, pleasure education and shared experiences to create changes your body can remember.

Something shifts when intimacy is practised together. Your body begins to discover that closeness can be honest, playful and safe.

Pleasure as a path back to yourself

Self-intimacy is the ability to know what you feel, need, want and prefer.

It is learning to enjoy your own company. To listen when your body speaks. To hold yourself through loneliness, heartbreak and change without disappearing from your own life.

It is what allows you to love deeply without abandoning yourself.

From there, intimacy expands.

You become braver in friendship, more honest in love and more comfortable receiving. You begin choosing relationships that can meet the person you really are.

Relationships where your full self can live.

Why I created Tender Core

I began this work because I was searching for intimate touch that felt intentional, emotionally connected and deeply embodied.

When I could not find the experience I was longing for, I began creating it.

Through one-to-one touch sessions, I discovered that people were rarely seeking touch alone. They wanted closeness without pressure. A place to be real. A chance to question what pleasure meant to them and discover how it felt to receive.

I began creating live sensual massage experiences where people could witness what safe, soft pleasure and intimacy might look like.

Again and again, people asked me:

Where can we go to practise this with others?

Tender Core became my answer.

Why my work is different

I am queer. I have had to pull apart compulsory heterosexuality and inherited ideas about sex, love and relationships, then ask what is actually true for me.

I did not learn this work through theory alone.

My education has taken me through sex work, sexual shame, performance, touch, consent and the creation of boundaries that protect my body, heart and spirit.

I have taken my clothes off in front of hundreds of people and created live performances exploring authentic intimacy. I have built experiential playgrounds where people can meet what is happening inside their bodies in real time.

My work has been shaped through bodies, rooms, rituals, risk and the trust of hundreds of clients and participants.

I do not ask you to understand intimacy only with your mind. I create experiences where your body can practise something new.

The skills of intimacy are the skills of life

To ask.
To listen.
To receive.
To honour a no.
To stay present with a yes.
To risk honesty.

To reveal something tender and discover that you are still worthy of love.

Shame blocks pleasure. Fear blocks vulnerability. When our hidden thoughts, feelings and desires are met without judgement, we feel less alone. We recover our freedom, our sensation and our capacity to be fully alive.

Expressing our true selves is part of the antidote to the modern intimacy crisis.

The world I want to help create

I want us to know how to create closeness instead of waiting for it to happen.

I want friendships to be treated with the devotion we often reserve for lovers. I want more people who know how to ask, listen, receive, repair and tell the truth.

I want us to romance our lives, protect human touch as something sacred and create chosen families where our full selves can live.

Tender Core is deeply personal work, but it is not meant to happen in isolation.

We need places to practise together.
We need each other.